Greasing the Path to Success: Finding the Confidence to Step Up to Key Moments

Whether its making a prospecting call to a promising business contact, giving an informal elevator speech to a networking group, or attempting to close a transaction, there are certain key moments when putting your best-dressed foot forward really matters. Some of lifes fortunate people seem to be naturally at their best finding confidence under pressure. The rest of us have to learn.

Confidence matters.

Few would argue that developing confidence is a good investment. Youll be more comfortable and therefore more motivated in your marketing efforts. Its difficult to sustain an effort over the long haul a requirement, for successful networking and marketing if were miserable doing it. Furthermore, marketing and branding experts tell us that confidence is the #1 reason people buy what they buy. Where do they get confidence to try the product or service for the first time? From you, from your confidence in what you offer.

Confidence on command.

Lets say you have to make an outreach call to someone who can potentially refer you business. Stomach butterflies are on a rampage. Youve scripted the call, but your voice is still flat with anxiety. How do you suddenly summon confidence? Confidence is like one of the bodys involuntary muscles. You cant make it fire on command. It either fires or it doesnt. But the smaller muscles around it, contributing to its tone and strength, are voluntary. You can help yourself build confidence by doing the small things. You probably already have a repertoire of quick-fix confidence-builders that work for you. From my years of helping people grow, here are some of my favorites.

Practice

Talk about your product or service, with strangers as well as acquaintances. Do it again.

Do it frequently, whether successful or not. Keep the interval between short.

Dont let being awkward stop you

Create a temporary no fault zone, where you goal is to do it, not do it right.

Remember: the pool of potential contacts is infinite. Theres plenty of room for practice.

Let timing help

Capitalize on confident or successful moments to create more of them.

There will be days when youre under a cloud. Dont try then. Letting yourself off the hook today breeds confidence that tomorrow will be better.

Tough love

Act as if

Just do it

Protect your environment from negativity: call a temporary moratorium on friends or family who may be envious or skeptical of your endeavor

Seek inspiration

Rub shoulders with someone who has exuberant confidence in you

Read some inspiring quotations

Read testimonials from your own clients

Watch a squirrel leap through space from a secure branch to an untested one

Quit being mean

Make a quick list on paper of the 5 confidence-sabotaging voices in your head. Quote them verbatim, and give each one a name.

Send them all out for a beer, and while theyre gone, make the call

All of these suggestions are simple and even simple-minded. Theyre ways to develop the internal muscles that in turn will support the success were reaching for. After all, if youre to grow into a new level of success, you will need more than good ideas and hard work. Youll need the internal muscles to support it. Confidence is one of those qualities that can seem to vary with the weather. Very few of us are born for success any more than were born to bench press three hundred pounds.

For most, the daily work-outs, coupled with an attitude that gives generous credit for perseverance, are what qualify us to have that golden ring. Im cheering for you!

Nina Ham, certified coach and licensed psychotherapist, is principal of Success from the Inside Out, providing individual coaching and teleseminars to build the skills, attitudes and habits for sustainable success in your career or business. Mail to: Nina@womenssuccesscoach.com, subscribe in subject line, for free monthly e-zine, or visit http://www.SuccessfromtheInsideOut.com.

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Nina Ham
Greasing the Path to Success: Finding the Confidence to Step Up to Key Moments

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